For the colleague from across the aisle
Ellen and I worked in different departments, which around here usually means polite warfare over budgets. With Ellen it meant something rarer: an honest ally. For fourteen years, whenever my team’s plans had a hole, Ellen found it — kindly, privately, and before it embarrassed anyone. Whenever her team needed cover on a hard call, we gave it, because she’d earned it a dozen times over. We disagreed constantly and never once badly. That’s a skill this whole industry is running out of. The finance folks can tell you her results; I can tell you her character. Ellen is the colleague you call when the news is bad, because she thinks in solutions and never in blame. This place is losing its most trustworthy handshake. Ellen — it was an honor to argue with you. Enjoy every minute of what comes next.
Why it works: “An honor to argue with you” captures cross-department respect precisely — trust built through honest disagreement.
Customize it: Swap the budget battles for the turf you and your colleague actually shared, and keep one real disagreement in it.
